13 Apr The Four Agreements Sample
This is a brilliant book with an excellent audio edition. It describes four simple agreements that you must make with yourself, which will allow you to increase your control over how you live your life: 1) Be immaculate with your word; 2) Don`t take anything personally; 3) Don`t make assumptions; 4) Always do your best. Easy doesn`t mean easy! Don Miguel`s book helps the reader to have the power of these chords and to use it. Reading Peter Coyotes is a pleasure that supports the learning process. It is a timeless work that can be constantly recalled. I found the four chords even more powerful than Stephen Coveys Seven Habits, which speaks volumes. And just like the seven habits, the four chords are powerful in all aspects of your life, including family, work and recreation. If we have established relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the exchanges are for information purposes in the name of intimacy, not a complaint or a request to repair anything to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself… That`s impressive. This is a vulnerable intimacy and can go anywhere (no attachment to the result).
Where it`s going to go is more truth, especially if the person who hears this sharing can go into his emotional body and find out what`s going on in response to sharing and then share YOUR emotional truth right now. In this video example from the online course The Four Agreements, we distinguish between the reality that creates life and the virtual reality that people create using language. Life creates reality, and people create stories about reality. The four chords are provided in an easily understandable way and apply to everyday life. The concept of living in a dream is also easy to assimilate. The only agony I had was with the last 11 minutes, where he gives a prayer „Christan“ that sounds in total contradiction with the wisdom of Toltec given in the rest of the book. This end made me doubt the credibility of the authors. I recommend to listen until prayer, then stop and you will be satisfied with the wisdom of the Toltec tradition. I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the author of the book. That is why I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explains why he/she thought the four chords meant that people were behaving ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer.
As it is, I support the idea that –Toltec or not — these principles are a healthy way of life and are in harmony with the good practices supported by modern psychology: we agree not to take things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward, to find and change the old chords and beliefs – which come largely from our domestication in childhood – that connect us emotionally and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the „dream“ of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift from Toltec Wisdom.